Loving Your Husband In her recently published book Loving Your Husband, Patsy Loden discusses several ideas on how to transform your marriage and honor your covenant. This statement sounds much easier than it actually is. However, with effort and dedication from both spouses, this goal can become realistic in many marriages. Loden states from the beginning of her book that marriage does not come with a manual; therefore, not all these techniques will work for every marriage. Unfortunately, good marriages do not just happen. Loden tells her readers that marriage takes preparation. The Lord said in Titus 2:3-5 that the older woman ought to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and children. We must allow God’s principles to become our nature. It is not just something we can jump into and become a professional.
Commitment is an extremely important part of the marriage covenant. A woman who is committed to her husband can result in a magnitude of different things. This creates trust and respect within the marriage. A problem that women have is that they are constantly trying to change their husbands into the spouses they want them to be. However, we must “teach our husbands without words – and he may change.” Sometimes it is not what we say, but it is what we do.
Loden gives examples of strong Biblical women who were tremendous influences in the lives of people. None of these women changed the behavior of others, but influenced them by their good actions. Loden quotes “The only person you have a right to change is yourself.” When we criticize and talk negatively about our husbands, we are slandering him. Slander is a sin according to the Scriptures. Rather than slandering our husbands, we are to be their helpers and encouragers in every way we can. If we treat them with love and respect, then we will reap the rewards God has promised us.
One thing that godly women do not and should not do is spread rumors about one another. We, as Christian women, should have self-control and be godly in our conduct. We should be the wives and mothers that God planned for us to be because the man cannot teach his daughters how to become good wives and mothers. Therefore, we should lead by our examples and show by our actions how to fulfill these important roles in the home.
Marriage is significantly important to God. He created it; therefore, He knows what He is talking about concerning the topic. We must “follow the blueprint [the Bible]…[because we] are responsible for building [our] home.” We should refer to the Word of God as a compass. It is here for our instruction, reproof, correction, and training. Loden asks, “How is God’s compass leading you?” If God is not the leading compass in our marriages, they will suffer greatly and will have no direction at all.
God’s marriage law states, “A man shall leave his father and mother, and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” If either spouse is still attached to his or her father or mother, the marriage cannot grow and mature as it should. This will bring about problems and disagreements that could potentially harm the marriage. We can always turn to Colossians 3:18, which states, “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”
Love is a large piece of the marriage relationship puzzle. Many things in our daily lives are based on love. Responsibility and respect are also extremely important in marriage. God gave wives the responsibility to love, respect, and cherish their husband just as he is, and we should live up to that responsibility. Loden presents a lists of “Be’s” that wives should remember including: be a loving friend to your husband, be in love with your children, be sensible and sober-minded, be pure, be a worker at home, be kind, be subject to your own husband, and be a good name for God’s glory. A man wants a wife who is dedicated to the family and who respects herself as a
marriage, the couple soon discovers flaws of a marital spouse that could hinder the relationship, or create an opportunity for growth in the spouses relationship. When handling conflict I this manner, it is essential for the couple to remain patient and loving to say the least. Many building blocks are laid where one might call it a whole section of the foundation as couples deal with conflicts in marriage. One finds that the way conflicts and anger are handled is almost as important as the problems themselves…
years in part because of the unusual tendency he has of lacing his repeated lines with the honor of both men and women alike. Unlike the later writings of some of his peers, such as Socrates and Plato - Homer’s women are portrayed as devoted mothers, loving wives, as well as demure heroines. The primary obligation of women in ancient Greece is to marry (most favorably in their mid teens) and to produce legitimate male children so that their husband’s lineage might continue on for eternity. Motherhood…
first contrasting commonplace focuses on how fathers and daughters usually have strong, loving relationships. A song that represents this commonplace is “My Little Girl” by Tim McGraw. In the book, Alison and her father’s relationship is much different. A lyric from the song that stands out to me as a loving father daughter relationship is “Sometimes you're asleep I whisper "I Love You!" in the moonlight at your door. As I walk away, I hear you say, "Daddy Love You More!" Opposing this, in the book…
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world, such as love, choice, independence and adventure. Jonas and the previous Receiver of Memories, known as The Giver, make a plan that will return the world to a more loving, but also more dangerous place. However Jonas’s world seems perfect, but when you realize all of the experiences and emotions they have given up, your view of world start to crumble. I would never be content to live in this world because of the many joyful things I would have to give up. In today’s world we have many important…
God in all possible ways, for God gave us life, and he fills that life with love and grace. But you should never focus too much on any certain aspect of life, but instead keep balance and have the main focus upon God and the way he wants you to live your life. As a Christian, you must be wary and have self-control so you do not fall into the traps of sin. Sin is in almost every aspect of life, and it will suck you in if you let it. You are fighting a constant battle against satan, and in order to win…
After reading the article “Close Relationships Sometimes for the Mask Poor Communication” it opens my eyes completely. My husband and I have poor communication skills; cannot believe after being with this man for thirteen years, I have just notice the problem. You think we know each other well enough to understand each expression, tone and body language. We both have faults in our communication, I have trouble listening, where he absolutely loves to take over the conversation and correct me…
through characterization and symbolism. Shakespeare shows how women seeking justice may or may not prevail depending on various trials. The characters of Hermione and Cordelia portray this in theses plays. They were both misunderstood. Hermione’ s husband, Leontes, accused her of cheating on him with his best friend Polixeness when she was just being friendly and Cordelia refused to show her father, King Lear, how much she loved him, insisting that words and language are insufficient to express the…
FAMILY PORTRAIT 2 Family Portrait “You can choose your friends, but you cannot chose your family” A well-known saying that can be taken as humorous for some, yet painfully true for others. . Our political leaders seem to have taken notice to this growing change in family dynamics. An article written by Mitch Pearlstein in the weekly Standard, titled “The Disappearing Family-Problem”, (November 23, 2012) tackles this issue of what seems to be one of the worst downfalls. Our…
house where she grows up in. The overwhelming necessity of company has to cross her mind, so she must find another loving figure that can give her the love and care as her father did.Usually, one who looses a person finds the same characteristics in another as Miss Emily does with Homer. The next two pieces of forshadowing show the readers how her obsession leads to the killing of her husband to be. The last time the towns people see Homer Barron is when he enters through Miss Emily's back, kitchen door…