Effective Interpersonal Communications Christopher Travers
COM 200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Cassandra Daniel
September 30, 2013

Dear Lensie and Christopher, I was thrilled to no end to hear of your engagement. You must be very excited to know that you are going to spend the rest of your lives together with your best friend. In your asking for advice you seek on successful relationships, I would like to offer of different aspects of interpersonal communication, from a c lass I am taking, to help you understand both
Each time you have a positive experience, you are bound to continue to feel good about yourself. If you feel good about yourself, Positive things are likely to happen to you. Your attitude towards a given situation, will most likely decide its outcome. “Psychologist Carl Jung, one of the founders of modern psychology, claimed that every person has natural inclinations and preferences for what he called the four basic psychological functions of thinking, feeling, sensation, and intuition,” (as cited in Jung, C.G.([1921] 1971). Be mindful of these functions. They are important if you are to understand individual temperaments. Above all, remember this. Life is not a popularity contest and the only person you have to impress is yourself. If you cannot be happy with yourself, how can you expect somebody else to be happy with you? By taking the time to become a little more self-aware “one can increase the ability to communicate with yourself, and with others.” (Sole, K.(2011)3.5, pp85). Develop strategies for active, critical, and empathic listening.
We often hear what is being said, but do we take the time to honestly focus when someone is pleading for advice or help? Hearing is not the same as listening. Listening to someone is as important as communicating with them. You cannot have one without the other. “To listen, you must be fully focused on the other person and engaged in a process that involves six components: