COM 310: STUDY GUIDE FOR EXAM #4

As usual, the test will consist of multiple-choice questions and fill-in-the blank bonus questions. Below is a list of the topics to concentrate on as you prepare for the exam. The exam is on Thursday, May 7th from 8:00 to 9:20 am

Relational Transgressions (Chapter 13)
* Know what relational transgressions are, as well as commonly identified types of transgressions

* Be able to define hurt; know the three types of hurtful messages discussed in class

* Be able to define and distinguish sexual, emotional, and communicative infidelity -Sexual: perform some sort of sexual act it does not need to be sex outside of the relationship -Emotional don’t need to have sex -Communicative: does it intentionally to send a message

* Sex differences in reactions to sexual vs. emotional infidelity and the two explanations for those differences (i.e., the evolutionary hypothesis and the double shot hypothesis) -Evolutionary hypothesis: women care more about emotional infidelity because of the potential loss of valuables. Men care more about sexual infidelity because of paternal -Double shot hypothesis: both men and women equally should care about both emotional and sexual infidelity. Men care more about sexual infidelity because believe that if women having sex with man than they must have emotional feeling towards them. Women care more about emotional because feel like if have emotional feelings towards women then going to be having sex with them.

* Differences in relationship damage based on the way a person discovers sexual infidelity -Witnessing it yourself or hearing from a third party: most damage, least likely to forgive -Having partner tell you themselves- least amount of Relationship damage, most likely to forgive -Having partner tell you after asking them- in the middle

* Be able to distinguish jealousy, envy, and rivalry from one another -Jealousy- -Envy: you want something that someone else has. For example maybe you wish that you were someone’s first love. -Rivalry: both people want something that neither one has

* Be able to describe the communicative responses to jealousy, including which ones fall under constructive, destructive, avoidant, and rival-focused reactions, and how they are associated with relational satisfaction

* Be able to define Obsessive Relational Intrusion and know the common and more severe behaviors associated with it as well as how ORI and stalking are related to each other - ORI definition: -Common behaviors: calling, -Severe behaviors: Damage of property, violence

* Relational Goal Pursuit Theory: Know the main ideas behind this theory, including why people keep pursuing a relationship that is likely unattainable, and how people cope with ORI behaviors - People expend energy to develop or reinitiate relationship to the extent that they perceive a rs is desirable and attainable. (Used to expel ORI behaviors) - People keep pursuing a relationship likely unattainable because of 1. Cultural scripts: in movies they seem like you always get the person. 2. 3. 4. 5. - How