To disclose or not to disclose?, That question usually comes when you start a new relationship with a friend, a boy friend, a new job or any new relationship, but disclosing can also happen with people we have known for a long time or not. Scholars define self-disclosure as sharing information with others that they would not normally know or discover, but I feel like each person has his or her own way of defining what self closure is. To me, self disclosure is letting myself go and trusting the person I am disclosing to, it involves risk and vulnerability on my part sharing important information to someone. Therefore I go back to the question I posed before, do I trust this person or not, do I love this person to feel my vulnerability, do
Another bad thing I hate about self- disclosing is that the person you disclose the information to will gain power in the relationship because of the information they now possess. Though according to the notes in self –disclosure it says disclosure usually happens in the beginning of relationship,. To a certain extend it is good to let the other person mainly your boyfriend know more about yourself, I find it is also a risk, too much self disclosure or self disclosure that comes early in a relationship can damage the relationship, Therefore while self disclosing is useful it can also be damaging to a relationship. Though also to an extent the Johari window explains the “blind spot”, the “façade”, “the unknown” as some of the tools used in self-disclosure and very helpful to inter-personal communication, I find that some other things are better not communicated, like your sexual behaviour, mental health problems, failures unless being told to someone who is like a doctor or