Types of Parenting Umberto Eco once said, “I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren't trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.” Parenting is never as easy as the books make it sound, and deciding how to raise children to fit the social mold can sometimes leave a parent stuck in the mud. Research shows that children who were raised under an Authoritative parenting style have more self control and balanced reasoning than children who are raised in an Authoritarian or Permissive household. Authoritative parenting is mostly recommended because it is a good median between Authoritarian and Permissive parenting. Authoritative parents are also known as “democratic” parents, they listen to their child's point of view on a situation. Instead of saying “No,” an authoritative parent will offer reason as to why they said no. Children who are raised in an authoritative home are more likely to have better self confidence, and even more likely to obtain good social skills. Authoritarian parents are parents who set strict rules and expectations. “No” is a very common word in these parents' vocabulary. Normally children with Authoritarian parents fear their parents in a mild or harsh way. Adults who raise their children in an authoritarian manner most likely lived an unhappy childhood themselves. Children with authoritarian parents are more likely to have low self esteem, and more likely to be more violent and demanding outside of the home. Permissive parenting is the style in which the parent is more like a friend than a responsible, rule setting adult. Permissive parents tend to allow their children to do as they please, and offer bribes in return for good behavior. “In a recent study, permissive parenting was linked to underage alcohol use” (Cherry, 6). Permissive parents are more likely to raise a child who