Saying ‘No’- How easy it is?

Saying ‘No’ to anyone is always hard whether it be rejecting a proposal or a project. We fear about the consequences after saying ‘No’. Generally, when we say ‘Yes’ to all, we get sort of positive responses and the moment we say ‘No’ we are the wrong person to deal with. This causes us to walk extra miles to please anyone by saying ‘Yes’ to everything.

The act of saying ‘No’ is not always that easy, even though when you are dominated by the person asking to do so. May be that’s why we usually say, how can we say no to him/her but ultimately whatever reasons we end up saying ‘Yes’. All these small ‘Yes’ lead us many times to hear ‘You should have declined the idea at first hand.’ Therefore, learn to say ‘No’ when you must than say at the time when you already have fallen into serious consequences.

Hierarchy of ‘No’
Weightage of every ‘No’ increase with level of the person in the organisation and this gets higher and higher until it reaches height of the corporate level. That means every level increases the value of word ‘No’. Usually, people have tendency to go to one step higher level when he hears ‘No’ from lower level and then goes to even higher level if he hears the same. This chain continues until he hears ‘Emphasized No’ from the supreme himself. [pic]
Hierarchy of ‘No’

This hierarchy surely decreases the confidence as every level feels his denial can be refused or is costly at times. This nearly means higher level holds the growing junior colleagues at the point when he is extending his potentials to emerge as a good leader and a competitor, by making decisions over decisions already taken. However, junior levels are at times ignorant about consequences and must be made to learn by senior executives before they taste the bitter experience. Therefore, this discovers the fact that this hierarchy is not set by individuals themselves but is an integral part to survive in the corporate world.

Learn to say Polite ‘No’
There are ways of saying ‘No’: Politely, harshly or just be dumb. Rejection made politely is well received by all and is a part of diplomacy to open door for future associations. My sister said when she was in a training on Child Care she was taught ‘Never say ‘No’ to Children, give them the logic behind it’ this surely is good lesson to learn not only for these teachers but also for the ones who cannot say ‘No’ at first hand. Every ‘No’ has a reason whether it is small or big but if we have that ability to express it in clear and reasonable way the person automatically positions himself on the top level of the hierarchy.

Some People cannot say ‘No’
This surely is a big problem; these people go office early and leave it the last. He is assigned any job, which others feel is boring and painstaking. He is pressurized by both lower and upper level as he cannot do anything in time and cannot meet the target assigned. He curses himself for this disability but cannot say ‘No’ to anyone. Only timely determination and commitment can save