Do It Already

Understanding when a relationship has run its course will determine how bad a heart will be broken. If caught early, the damage to the heart can be minimized and prevent future relationships from being jaded. The reality of moving on does not start with the actual break-up, it begins when the love of your life is no longer the object of your affection. How one gets to the place where love is a one sided point of view is irrelevant. You are here now and prolonging the inevitable pain to what was once your lover should not be prolonged.

Is it you or is it them? Placing the blame is a waste of time and energy when figuring out if this union is coming to a closure. Are you falling out of love, someone else is consuming your thoughts, are you being neglected, or are you just always fighting? When your sadness out ways your happiness regardless of whose fault it may be, the time to call it quits has arrived. I would rather be the one ending the relationship, even if I’m wrong, than be on the business end of the dagger about to rip open a fragile heart. Waiting for the other person to do what needs to be done will only make both your lives miserable. Doing the mature thing is sometimes painful and uncomfortable, but life is about doing what is right. Besides, who wants to be unhappy all the time?

You can both walk away from this amicably if you take the time to think about what you’re doing. Put yourself in their shoes. Is your reasoning for the break-up going to make sense? Vague statements like “this isn’t working” or “it’s not you, it’s me” are not going to get the job done. They leave to many questions open to a person who is going to do whatever it takes to stay together. Presenting a clear image of how you see the relationship is what needs to happen. It may seem a bit stoic for something that was started with passion, lust, and excitement; although transparency with your feelings will be irrefutable. At least that is how it is supposed to work.

While the deed is being done and emotions are flying, you must remain steadfast in your decision. The sad look in the eyes, the good times that were shared, can prevent you from committing to going through with the break-up. Always remember why you’re doing this, even if sex is offered, the momentary good does not out way the overall bad. This decision is what is best for both of you. This is why your reasoning for the break-up must be sound before you tell your significant other. Do not let your emotions get the best of you. Raising your voice will not help, but being calm and collected through the devastating news will aid in the acceptance by what now is your former lover.

Once all is said and done, the ties that once bound